I hope that, in time, you will accept your interest in spanking. That doesn’t mean it will always be easy; few things are. But you will be at peace.
Accepting your spanking desires
Different people find acceptance in different ways. One embraces her spanking desires, joins a spanking club, and blogs about her experiences. Another, a man who is married to a non-spanking wife, limits himself to masturbating while reading spanking erotica with his wife’s approval, and both are comfortable with this arrangement. Find what works for you.
A majority of couples who share a love for spanking and engage in it as a routine part of their sex play are off the radar screen. They don’t publicize their interest, don’t join clubs, don’t post online, and don’t go to parties. They send the kids to Grandma’s for the evening, stay home, spank and make love. That’s all they want or need.
Some love the idea of a community in which their sexual interests are celebrated. They join a spanking club, go to meetings, and participate in online discussions.
Others discover a yen for other activities that are more traditionally considered BDSM, or that they enjoy mixing spanking with other BDSM activities.
But that’s an individual choice, not something that your interest in spanking will automatically compel you to do; nor does taking the first step and adding a comment in a spanking discussion suggest that you’ll soon throw off all of society’s conventions. The people who want a radical lifestyle choose it; they’re not sucked into it against their will.
Your life will be better
Almost everyone with an interest in spanking, even an intense interest, when they decide to actually explore that interest and start spanking or being spanked, are otherwise unchanged. They remain, in every other sphere of their lives, just as they were before: a reliable employee, a hardworking student, a trustworthy support for aging parents, etc. It’s just that, because they are now spanking, they are happier. Many prefer to remain completely private in this aspect of their lives. They don’t consider themselves part of a lifestyle or a movement. They just enjoy spanking.
There’s no single right way to run your life.
In this site, I hope to help you find acceptance. And if you are fortunate, spanking will be more than a source of pleasure. It will be a fount of joy.