Before the recording starts, I’ve been spanking kate over her jeans, then over her panties. As the recording starts, I slide her panties down so I can spank her bare bottom. The warmup is now well underway; I’m spanking hard enough that a vanilla woman would certainly object; but it’s not as hard as kate and I want it to be. I know I am hurting her more because she has the sheets clenched in her fists. This spanking lasts just over a minute, plenty of time for her to experience pain at my hands for the first time.
kate seems to be doing fine, but it’s good to check in, and I ask, “Are we getting closer to where you need to be?” “Yes, she responds.” I double check, making sure that she is all right with the intensity; in fact, I ask her in three different ways how she is doing (not all of this is in the sound clip here).
It’s fine to ask
Some people are afraid that if they ask the bottom how she’s doing that it will spoil the dynamic, but that isn’t my experience. Most bottoms feel cared for when the top asks how they are doing and it helps them relax into the scene. They don’t have to be vigilant if the top is clearly watching out for their well-being. Later, when the scene is more intense, this kind of inquiry can bring the bottom out of subspace in a way she doesn’t want; but we weren’t there yet. However, we were making good progress.
I don’t see the warmup as something I “do” for the sub; I enjoy it, in its own right, it’s a wonderful way to introduce us to each other and it’s my chance to bring her through the initial stages of pain.
There’s another angle to the warmup. Her readiness for harder spanking doesn’t exist in a vacuum; I help create it, help prepare her, by this carefully paced warmup. It’s not until I have given her this mild spanking that she knows for sure that she wants me to spank her harder tonight, in this place, in this mood. The spanking I administer and her response to it build on each other.
You can download this file at kate 1, 1, Are we getting closer?
There are three photos of kate tied down (blurry but still nice) on FetLife at:
For more …
The rest of this spanking is at The Bathbrush.
[Doc Tsai]: I’m going to slide down your panties and spank you on your bare bottom. Lift up a little bit . . . atta girl . . . terrific . . . get you a little closer to me. Are you comfortable?
[kate]: Um-hm (yes)
[Doc Tsai]: This is going to hurt a little more
Sounds of spanking
[kate]: Ahh . . . ahh . . .
[Doc Tsai]: You’re doing great. [then a phrase I can’t understand over the smacking noises]
[Doc Tsai]: Attagirl . . . attagirl . . .
[kate]: Ah! Ahh!
[Doc Tsai]: You’re doing great, kate. You’re a trooper. I know that hurts when I spank you like that. You’re doing just great, just great.
[Doc Tsai]: Don’t make a hole in the sheets now
[Doc Tsai]: You had a death grip on that . . .
[Doc Tsai]: Are we getting closer to where you need to be?
[Doc Tsai]: I’m glad.