You can spank yourself (many of us have tried this), and you can masturbate while dreaming about spanking (almost everyone has done this). But spankings flourish best in a relationship.
Relationships vary. I welcome all expressions of our shared passion and all combinations of interests and genders. As long as it’s two (or more) adults exploring this endlessly fascinating experience, it’s beautiful.
This section includes pages about meeting people (in general), safety, meeting people online, and meeting people in clubs and parties. These divisions are arbitrary, and I suggest you read all of them. Above all, if you are interested in doing some real spanking, please know that it doesn’t have to be a fantasy, it can be real, and if you commit to trying there’s a good chance you will find a partner.
Good luck, and let me know how things go!