The big day is coming and you are going to get spanked. Congratulations!
Most new spankees have some very personal concerns. If your ass is going to be sticking up in the air in the near future, read on. But first, some good news—you will probably have a wonderful time.
OK, here are the details.
Reacting to the spanking
Should you tell the top when it hurts? Should you wriggle, or try to hold as still as you can? This is something that you and the top might want to talk about ahead of time; but if you aren’t sure what your top wants, you should know that most tops want to know what the bottom is experiencing; that’s the magic. Don’t hold back.
If you feel like squirming, go ahead and squirm. Remember how often spanking fiction describes the spankee writhing? We all love that physical response to the experience. Here’s your chance: writhe away!
If the spanking is painful, say so, your top will probably be thrilled. You should have a safeword so you should be free to beg the top to stop without being petrified that the spanking will actually come to a screeching halt (see Safewords).
And if the spanking is not hard enough? There are innumerable stratagems for amping up the intensity. You can say “harder please,” you can snicker, you can tie the top’s shoelaces together. Use your creativity.
The asshole is surely the most fascinating square inch of real estate on the human body. Home of more nerve cells per square inch than ANY other location, including the surface of the eye.
I can’t imagine someone who loves spanking who doesn’t have a heightened relationship, of some kind, with the asshole. Buttocks without the asshole . . . bread without butter.
I don’t need to add that with all those nerve endings, which seem to be connected to nerves elsewhere and the erotic power centers in our brains, the asshole has other uses.
If you are going to be spanked bare bottom, your top will be able to see your asshole. If your top wants to feast his or her eyes on your asshole, you’ll likely be positioned so that this puckered orifice is on display. If your top is not an asshole admirer, you’ll likely be placed in a position that is more respecting of your modesty.
You’re not likely to have much say in whether or not your asshole itself is exposed. You can only accept or, if you can, enjoy the exposure.
All you can do is make sure that you are clean down there. Many bottoms dart into the bathroom for a quick wipe with a disposable towelette before their spankings. Whatever else happens, at least the first thing the top sees on lowering your underwear won’t be some random bodily deposit.
There is also the chance that your top may want to spank your asshole, or that you may want it to be spanked.
Most bottoms are terrified of cutting a big fart while being spanked. Honestly, it’s not such a big deal, but I don’t blame you for worrying about it.
Here are a few tips:
- Farting is not usually as much of a problem as bottoms fear. This may be because the adrenalin of the spanking slows down the digestive process.
- Avoid food that makes you fart (who knew?)
- If you’re worried about farting, encourage your top to spank you in a well-ventilated place, or say you get overheated easily and ask to turn on a fan
- If the urge to fart comes on during a spanking, you can try to let loose each fart as it comes along in the hope that each will be small enough to escape the top’s notice
- Alternatively, you can accumulate the little farts inside until the urge becomes irresistible. At this point you can
- Ask for a glass of water
- Say you need to pee
- Ask the top to check your parking meter or cell phone or the lock on the door. . . and then cut loose as soon as your top leaves the room.
You can also just not stress about it. Everybody farts
Spankings are like sex—sweat is part of the game—your top will probably be working up a sweat spanking you and may want to see you sweating. Don’t worry about it.
If your pussy gets wet before or during a spanking your top will probably be delighted. Some women feel that they get too wet when they are excited, or when they climax. They feel self-conscious, they feel embarrassed . . .
Each person has different feelings about spankings and sexual responses. But many people feel that the wetter you are, the better.
Most people who spank men relish the control they can exert over the male’s reproductive apparatus. An erect penis is fun to play with.
For an over-the-knee spanking, the top may place the bottom’s penis between her thighs (assuming the top is female), where she can give it a squeeze whenever she feels like it. To enhance this experience, she can put a dab of lubricant between her thighs so that her bottom is fucking her thighs while she paddles his buns; this can be erotic for both partners. It’s possible for the bottom to be literally fucking her while she spanks him if they are flexible and their bodies have the right proportions. Neither the fucking nor the spanking will be as letter perfect as if you were concentrating on it, but the combination has its charms.
Erotic spankings produce erections. Intense spankings eliminate them. Amy, my first steady top, used to spank me sensuously until I got erect, then spank me hard until the erection wilted. Then she would repeat the process. Good times.
If you are going to be doing the spanking …
Make it your goal that after the first spanking your bottom says “I want to do this again!”