I want to say a public thank you to Jillian Keenan. Before I go into the details, a little background is in order.
When I was a child I read everything I could find about spanking, which was mostly in children’s books or comic books or, when I got a little older, the dictionary (“to strike (a person, usually a child) with the open hand, a slipper, etc., especially on the buttocks, as in punishment). I had it memorized.
I knew I should keep this fascination to myself. And when I moved through puberty, I realized that this obsession was my form of sexuality. I felt not only deeply guilty and ashamed, but completely at a loss as to how to proceed with my dating life.
As I grew older I continued to search for more information. I succeeded, and what I found was disturbing. There was fiction, like the Story of O, which I found frightening and not at all erotic. Another well-known novel, Nine and a Half Weeks, ended with the heroine in what seemed like a psychotic depression. This was all bad news for my psyche, and my future.
In medical school I would search through the psychology section of bookstores in New York City. There I found psychiatric discussions of BDSM. They explained how sick I was and how badly I needed treatment, even though it might not help.
Over the years, and with the help of the Internet and a remarkable group of friends, I have learned that all of that cultural and professional information was absolutely wrong. As we learned and grew, we found ways to express and enjoy this amazing part of who we are without sacrificing the other pieces of a fulfilling life. Websites like Alex in Spankingland bring insight into this world for anyone who is willing to look around on the Internet.
This bring us back to Jillian Keenan, who has made the final breakthrough. She published Sex With Shakespeare in 2016, and it’s a wonderful book. It skillfully weaves together her intense spanking fantasies with the story of her search for a way to live productively and find erotic fulfillment. All of this is threaded with characters from the Bard, who knew more than a little about kink, as her subtitle reminds us: “Here’s Much to Do with Pain, but More with Love.” No wonder it was praised in the New York Times Book Review.
Now somebody who is fascinated by spanking doesn’t even have to go on the Internet. They can read a book by a gifted author that celebrates our shared kink and our common humanity.
Thank you, Jillian.