This section is about moving from fantasy to real life.
In theory, you might have had fantasies about spanking for years, explore real-life spanking, and discover that while the fantasies were exciting, you don’t enjoy the reality.
Most people I know who’ve tried out real life spanking found it wonderful, everything they hoped for and more. Those who have had disappointing experiences were often going about it in the wrong way. They tried to recruit a partner or spouse to spank them, and it wasn’t very good. They met someone to spank, and the chemistry was wrong.
One of my friends is a good example. She loves giving hard spankings, but when someone spanked her she hated it. She concluded, “I don’t like being spanked.” But when I gave her a long, sensuous spanking, she thought it was wonderful. She just needed to learn what kind of spanking was right for her.
We know intuitively that through spanking we can reach transcendence. But finding those moments of wonder, or whatever other moments you seek, can be challenging.
Spanking is a sexuality that takes time and effort to grow into. The media give us role models for how to approach heterosexual intercourse, and to a lesser extent how gay relationships evolve. But spanking as a significant sexual interest between normal people is absent from mainstream media. There are plenty of spanking porn videos, but they do not represent how real people spank each other, and they have nothing to offer about how real people might integrate their interest in spanking into a productive life.
This section provides some guidance on how to turn your desire into the reality of which you’ve dreamed.