This website provides information about consensual adult spanking. Its goal is to help you understand your interest in spanking—where it came from, what it means, and what you should do.
For some people, spanking is intensely sexual. If you that’s true for you—and if you wonder how to safely integrate spanking into a loving and intimate relationship—you have come to the right place. Your interest in spanking is not only entirely compatible with a normal, happy, productive life, it can bring you joy. The more intense your interest in spanking, the more satisfaction you will find in its fulfillment.
This website provides, in one place, carefully-researched answers to your questions. It all starts with understanding.
About adult erotic spanking
- Spanking is a common sexual fantasy
- Most people who love spanking lead ordinary lives in every other way
- You can spank or be spanked safely
- If you love spankings but don’t have a partner, you can find one
- If you have a partner and want to learn how to experiment with spankings, this site will help you
- If you explore real life spanking, it will probably be as wonderful as you have imagined
Are these true of you?
- You think about spanking a lot.
- You want to know what real life spanking would be like.
- You wonder how to include spanking in your romantic relationships.
If so, I’m writing for you.
This site is a guide to how to live your life when spanking is important to you. If you feel alone, I offer you company; if you are confused, I have answers; if you are in despair, I offer hope. Not superficial reassurance that “everything’s going to be all right” or a lie like “this is just a phase you’re going through.”
Your interest in spanking is not a phase; it is an important part of who you are. And I can offer real hope, based on reliable facts and the successful lives of thousands of people like you.
This site is growing
I’m going to be adding more material over time. If there is a topic you’d like me to cover, write me!
Sexually inclusive
I welcome readers of any race, gender, and sexual orientation. Similarly, I welcome spankings involving any combination, including lesbian, gay, and straight spanking partners.
Where to start?
You could start at the beginning, with My (Spanking) Secret.
You could skip to the section you find most interesting.
If you are curious about this site, or about me, go to About This Website and Me.
Safety
Nothing is more important than your safety. What you should do to keep safe varies depending on what you are doing, so I have included discussions of safety wherever they are relevant. The main discussion is at Finding a Spanking Partner Safely.
Culture shock
This discussion is about consensual spanking only; but it can still be intimidating if you are new to this kind of discussion. For some people, an intense spanking is exciting. For others, it’s just plain scary. Pace yourself. If there’s a section that seems too much, skip it! You may come back to it later, or you may never be interested. It’s your choice either way.
My name
My name is pronounced “Doc Sigh.” You may see it written DocTsai or doctsai, but the correct form is two words, capitalized, Doc Tsai. And no, I’m not of Asian descent.
My privacy policy
I don’t share emails, ever.
Go ahead – explore
Make yourself comfortable and start reading; it’s all here. And write me anytime. I am doc.tsai@gmail.com. If you write me, please add me to the “OK” list on your spam filter. That way you can receive my reply.